And does only one of those parts know who it is???
We form part of what the alchemists call the Anima Mundi, the soul of the world. The truth is that if the Anima Mundi were merly to keep dividing, it would keep growing, but it would also become gradually weaker. That is why, as well as dividing into two, we also find ourselves. And that process of finding ourselves is called Love. Because when a soul divides, it always divides into a male part and a female part.
That's how the Book of Genesis explains it: the soul of Adam was split in two, and Eve was born out of him.In each life, we feel a mysterious obligation to find at least one of those Soul Mates. The Greater Love that separated them feels pleased with the Love that brings them together again.
By taking risks.
By risking failures, disappointment, disillusion, but never ceasing in your search for Love. As long as you keep looking, you will triumph in the end.
A great Philosopher is said to have their own ideas about the world which they abide. The same can be described for the Destroyers of such belief. They too have different ideas and opinion about the world. The only difference is: one helps broaden the way of thinking and the other is menace to the mankind. And most often do we fall as pawns in such artful hands.
Marriage is a prey to this artifice. Here is an exerpt of what Kartick (a friend) told me once. Both being free thinkers, we were discussing that an intricate understanding is required to prepare oneself for marriage. Though it looked like he purged out all his sentiments against marriage but what he said can be related well:
“’Can I find myself in a marriage? Will I stick to it? Do I want it because I beleive in it or because I'm afraid of being alone?'
Answers to those questions won't come from anyone else. and those are the make / break ones.
It's as simple as saying, I go to work because I love what I do, even if it doesnt pay much. versus saying, I go to work because I'm afraid I wont get money to buy a car tomorow if I don't go.
Why do I need a car? Because everyone has one. How will I look without it?
I know every individual have their own set of ideals for doing certain things in a certain manner. So I am sure most of the people, like me, who have not fallen in love have to vouch for the last resort ‘arrange marriage’. If asked the reason, they either are not sure about it or for to keep parent's happy. Or, may be because this is nature's law regardless of how you would face the future with all the apprehensions and insecurities.
Why do we need to do something if it doesn't make you happy? Ultimately, you'll have to bear the fruit of the seed you sow: sour or sweet. Still you'd do it to make others happy. But are you convinced? If yes, why rebellious resolutions like “I’ll never let this happen to my child."; "I won't let my child suffer."; "He’ll have all freedom he wants.”; etc. clouds you ? Okay agreed, all parents become protective and conservative for their kids. But being protective and being conservative are two different things altogether. Sometimes I feel, parents find a satisfaction in condescending their children - A form of superiority if not by respect, then by position.
We form part of what the alchemists call the Anima Mundi, the soul of the world. The truth is that if the Anima Mundi were merly to keep dividing, it would keep growing, but it would also become gradually weaker. That is why, as well as dividing into two, we also find ourselves. And that process of finding ourselves is called Love. Because when a soul divides, it always divides into a male part and a female part.
That's how the Book of Genesis explains it: the soul of Adam was split in two, and Eve was born out of him.In each life, we feel a mysterious obligation to find at least one of those Soul Mates. The Greater Love that separated them feels pleased with the Love that brings them together again.
But how will i know who my Soul Mate is???
By taking risks.
By risking failures, disappointment, disillusion, but never ceasing in your search for Love. As long as you keep looking, you will triumph in the end.
Is it possible to meet more than one Soul Mate in each life?
Yes. The essence of Creation is one and one alone. And the essence is called Love.
Love is the force that brings us back together, in order to condense the experience dispersed in many lives and many parts of the world.
We are responsible for the whole Earth because we do not know where they might be. Those Soul Mates we were from the beginning of time. If they are well, then we, too, will be happy. If they are not well, we will suffer, however unconsciously, a portion of their pain. Above all, though, we are responsible for reencountering, at least once in every incarnation, the Soul Mate who is sure to cross our path. Even if it is only for a matter of moments, because those moments bring with them a Love so intense that it justifies the rest of our days.
We can also allow our Soul Mate to pass us by, without accepting him or her, or even noticing. Then we will need another incarnation in order to find that Soul Mate. And because of our selfishness, we will be condemned to the worst torture of humankind ever invented for itself: LONELINESS.
Courtsey: Brida by Paulo Coelho
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Having said that, I was wondering that if soul were divided into two, regardless of Religion or Caste, why are we drawing boundaries for finding a soul mate? If we all believe ‘Marriages are made in heaven’, so does the soul knows that since my one half is in this religion I've to incarnate in the same religion ? Why such a broad thought is reduced in orthodox/superstitious paradigms ? And if we were bound to find a soul mate from a religion we belong, are we sure we will find him; or will it be a compromise by force ?
Love is the force that brings us back together, in order to condense the experience dispersed in many lives and many parts of the world.
We are responsible for the whole Earth because we do not know where they might be. Those Soul Mates we were from the beginning of time. If they are well, then we, too, will be happy. If they are not well, we will suffer, however unconsciously, a portion of their pain. Above all, though, we are responsible for reencountering, at least once in every incarnation, the Soul Mate who is sure to cross our path. Even if it is only for a matter of moments, because those moments bring with them a Love so intense that it justifies the rest of our days.
We can also allow our Soul Mate to pass us by, without accepting him or her, or even noticing. Then we will need another incarnation in order to find that Soul Mate. And because of our selfishness, we will be condemned to the worst torture of humankind ever invented for itself: LONELINESS.
Courtsey: Brida by Paulo Coelho
************************************************************************
Having said that, I was wondering that if soul were divided into two, regardless of Religion or Caste, why are we drawing boundaries for finding a soul mate? If we all believe ‘Marriages are made in heaven’, so does the soul knows that since my one half is in this religion I've to incarnate in the same religion ? Why such a broad thought is reduced in orthodox/superstitious paradigms ? And if we were bound to find a soul mate from a religion we belong, are we sure we will find him; or will it be a compromise by force ?
When this world was created with one soul which shared it’s half with another body, did they ever had any choice to look for ? No, they didn’t. But they knew they were for each other. Now when the world is crowded with so many souls being part of that one soul, we do have choices. As many choices as we want to look out for. And yet, there are so many bottom lines being drawn to stop one. Why ?
Religions took birth in order to prove the superiority of one sect and their beliefs. And likewise, Castes and Sub-castes came into existence. Strong ones started a move and the weaker followed, based on what suited them best to escape tortures and death.
Religions took birth in order to prove the superiority of one sect and their beliefs. And likewise, Castes and Sub-castes came into existence. Strong ones started a move and the weaker followed, based on what suited them best to escape tortures and death.
A great Philosopher is said to have their own ideas about the world which they abide. The same can be described for the Destroyers of such belief. They too have different ideas and opinion about the world. The only difference is: one helps broaden the way of thinking and the other is menace to the mankind. And most often do we fall as pawns in such artful hands.
Marriage is a prey to this artifice. Here is an exerpt of what Kartick (a friend) told me once. Both being free thinkers, we were discussing that an intricate understanding is required to prepare oneself for marriage. Though it looked like he purged out all his sentiments against marriage but what he said can be related well:
“’Can I find myself in a marriage? Will I stick to it? Do I want it because I beleive in it or because I'm afraid of being alone?'
Answers to those questions won't come from anyone else. and those are the make / break ones.
It's as simple as saying, I go to work because I love what I do, even if it doesnt pay much. versus saying, I go to work because I'm afraid I wont get money to buy a car tomorow if I don't go.
Why do I need a car? Because everyone has one. How will I look without it?
Unfortunately, our society propagates hypocrisy of this highest order.”
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I know every individual have their own set of ideals for doing certain things in a certain manner. So I am sure most of the people, like me, who have not fallen in love have to vouch for the last resort ‘arrange marriage’. If asked the reason, they either are not sure about it or for to keep parent's happy. Or, may be because this is nature's law regardless of how you would face the future with all the apprehensions and insecurities.
Why do we need to do something if it doesn't make you happy? Ultimately, you'll have to bear the fruit of the seed you sow: sour or sweet. Still you'd do it to make others happy. But are you convinced? If yes, why rebellious resolutions like “I’ll never let this happen to my child."; "I won't let my child suffer."; "He’ll have all freedom he wants.”; etc. clouds you ? Okay agreed, all parents become protective and conservative for their kids. But being protective and being conservative are two different things altogether. Sometimes I feel, parents find a satisfaction in condescending their children - A form of superiority if not by respect, then by position.
So what do we do? We fight. Even though its hard to surpass the realms of social barricade. When Shahrukh Khan marries Gauri, everyone talks about his unbiased love and their happy life. But what happens to our parents when we decide something of that sort ? Why an all-emotional-blackmail saga begins in the household ?
Pusillanimity rules out the rebellion-self leaving no gusto/spirit to fight. Now, one has to make a move. So do we keep sitting, waiting for an inspiration or should we be the inspiration ?
9 comments:
Nice to read articulation .
The ultimate divide of decision making. Sometimes its hard to find the thin line between ones expectations and ones responsibilities and duties levied onto by parents. In India,we are so into the cultures and traditions that once we think something out of the box its viewed negetively.
Nicely structured and the reader can very well relate and apply what the author has written. The opening reference taken from Brida summarizes the whole intention of the post.
Kudos to the author for bringing out the reality of our society,in a meaningful and contemplative way!
Welcome to Club of overly analyzed intellectuals waiting to be liberated . It is so strange that every one passes through same pain same analysis same conclusion some or other time of life ,it forces to believe me all of us are part of same divinity.
Let me put some point which may give some clue to you ( I dont know whether you will connect to it or not). If you look two extreme of self actualization philosophy i.e. Eastern and western you will find big gaps .
Western always put concept of I over rest , highly complex with flavors of Big I me mySelf , Perfection, freedom of thought etc. This school of thoughts give more importance to Search of goal over creation of goal.
It gives kick immediately ,exercise mind thoroughly then ultimately let us leave confuse thoroughly & analytically paralyzed . Its like have mutliple strategies but no direction for execution.( One study shows sales of Mercedez benz was down compare to Audi only becoz excessive option of Merc variants confused customer & ultimatly deprive them of fun which they get out of buying a premium product.)
Careful examination of Western spehere of world give strong evidence for that. With so much of option they are more depressed,stressed then ever.
Now come to East . No big deal simple thoughts. It weight creation over search .They say Bliss is the ultimate goal of creation . Enjoy life , have lesser expectation, do your karma follow your dharma. Dont try to search your goal ,rather create your goal . enjoy whatever you have.
It says more option ,more freedom does not mean better life. enjoy whatever you have . Try & immerse in love & rise . Love others will definitely bring peace inside. Dont try to find perfect person / partner rather create that one from whomsoever you find with ( You will never find finished diamonds ,you have to create one out of Raw Diamond).
Do your best but surrender yourself to almighty because at the end everything is meaningless . Enjoy the path dont wait for destination or goal. Let us enjoy the short stay in world cheerfully .
One more thing society is always like that only , means full of hypocrisy. tell me any period when you find it near to perfect or flawless. Whether it was period of Jesus or Period of Lord Ram it was like that only. Its only we who have to learn to get frequency of it & enjoy it without affecting or corrupting our soul.
Regarding soulmate it seems you are in process of arrange marriage . it is evident you are neither enjoying it nor convinced with it.
But one minute do you again feel freedom can gives you better option , i think you are falling prey to overly stated concept of freedom . it is a paradox only more option make us more confused & fatigued only. You should be thankful that at least you are part of society which atleast give you some option ( think about other unfortunate who dont have this options too)
Now dont feel you are the only victim of a society menace. Think for one minute about poor fellow who will be going through same process. Is he will be enjoying all this, i have my own doubts.
He might also be compromising many things to find a partner with whom he can live his life happily. You are not alone, every one is one same plane of reference, so there is no point in having so much grudge against society or any one .
Enjoy this process also , no one know you may find your soulmate by this process . Miracle do happens & indeed happens in this world only . so enjoy every thing.
Be blissful .
Enigma
Mr Enigma,
Please conclude your thought process in one line. And I would also appreciate if you conclude about mine. Looks like we are completely on different pages.
Have u read it & not understood or dont want to read? or u want to read only what u love to read. My comments were simple.
Just enjoy life , dont make things complicated while trying to oversimplify it. I have also gone through same dilemma n thoughts in my life earlier.
Enigma( Mrs , obviously)
Dear Mrs Enigma,
Its rightly said by you that we should be happy with what our parents & God has given us. Good to know that u can understand the dilemma of an unmarried girl who is about to get married according to her parents wish. I totally agree that everyone has to go through all this at a certain period in his/her life. Which as u told u have already gone through?
But to the extent I understand its an obvious worry from any Girl’s part that how she should believe a person whom she knows just by a name or his family name, may be u r very happy & contented with the kind of life your spouse has given u... but I would like to ask if u ever tried to read newspaper or watch Television or any kind of media that tells about how girls are being treated after marriage in our country.... and the worst part is whenever someone tries to express her/ his dilemma or views people like u come up n say ” be satisfied with what u get n believe in GOD and don’t dare to think of any change or any kind of revolution as it is not permitted in our culture “ .this is the reason we people lag behind our Western counterparts . And to your Cheers, India is full of people like u...
So lemme tell u some things about Indian ( Eastern according to u) culture
• Girls always had a liberty to choose their soulmate n its not new that now girls & Boys search for their soulmates ( if u ever heard about Shakuntala , Gargi or Vidyotama)
• Every kind of Education & freedom of expression for girls has always existed in Indian history ( hope u heard about Rani Lakshmibai of Jhansi )
• As u said more no of options leave us more confused then why do u think there existed a custom of Swayamvar and that too for Girls? ( I think it was a right given to a girl to find a perfect partner for herself rather than believing she can change any damn scoundrel to a sincere , honest & sophisticated person)
Since , u also agree that society is full of hypocrisy then how can u expect any person to believe other when he/ she doesn’t even know anything apart from what is being shown on face .
And also I would just ask u one simple question. .how can u compare survey on commodities like Mercedes Benz or Audi with the feelings & dilemma in a girl’s mind for choosing a life partner or Soul mate... this is so unrealistic . One can change from Benz to Audi after 5 yrs or so if he/she doesn’t find that comfortable but can u change spouse & does your eastern culture allow that...
I think Enigma(MRS. obviously-nothing so obvious in proclaiming that!),is in a mysterious situation. The comment of MRS.Enigma(but obvious) reflects a very stubborn attitude. Just like a machine-give an input and output comes out based on a fixed program. I think Engima had to settle down with another person who was equally enigmatic! One hand saying remain blissful and other hand saying create your soulmate, I find this a big enigma in its self.
This is forum to discuss opinions and we respect the opinion every person has,but you cant just say "you dont want to read" stuff highlighting your ego and showing to others that they are fools and you are wisest one among the lot? Or maybe you are taking out your married life frustrations out here in this forum(which is not expected from you). Remember you can advise but cannot force!
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